In this lesson, Rev. Terence Gray tackles the quiet poison of bitterness and shows why gospel-shaped forgiveness is the only path to lasting relationships. With Esau and Jacob’s reunion as a vivid picture and Ephesians 4:32 as our anchor, Pastor Terence invites us to drop the cup of resentment so our hands are free to receive and give love. Forgiveness isn’t denial or weakness—it names the wrong truthfully, sets wise boundaries when needed, and, as Dr. Tim Keller framed it, identifies with a fellow sinner, releases the debt, and aims (as far as it depends on us) for reconciliation. The cross reminds us forgiveness always costs something—and Jesus paid it all so we can live free. This week’s practice is simple but courageous: stop rehearsing the offense and start releasing it to God; choose compassion over payback; pursue safety and wisdom without hardening your heart. Whether you need to forgive up close or from a healthy distance, the Spirit can loosen your grip on the ledger you’ve been keeping. Love that forgives looks like Jesus—and that kind of love changes everything.

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